I am not an avid watcher of “The Bachelor,” but I have watched a few of this season’s episodes.  The guy was a single dad that was cute and sincere.  He didn’t seem as much of a dog as previous bachelors.  He was very appealing.  A few weeks ago he made the talk show circuit and he told everyone that he was engaged and perfectly happy.  He was going to marry this girl.  Great.

So ABC kept talking about all of the drama.  Hmmm… I’ll have to watch this.  I didn’t even get to watch the first hour of the show last night, but I found myself really excited to see the end.  After some angst and tears, he proposed to Melissa and professed how much he loved her.  He (and she) seemed so happy.  Good for them.

Fast forward 30 seconds… “Yeah, I’m just not that into her anymore” pretty much sums up how he felt about his fiancee after less than 6 weeks.  “Yeah, I’m going to dump her tonight, but I was thinking that maybe Molly might want to go out?”

The nice guy turned out to be a major jerk.  Not that he dumped the girl, but that he first dumped Molly, then PROPOSED to Melissa, then dumped Melissa, and thinks, “Hey, I still get to pick, right?”  WHAT?  This is not reality dude.

Here is why I’m mad at the show.  Real life does not allow a dude (or a lady for that matter) to line up potential wives, make out in front of the other competitors, then dispose of the trash he is no longer interested in.  In reality, the women would be crazy mad at the guy for such behavior.  On the show, the women politely say, “I think you have made a mistake, but you’re still a great guy.”

What’s worse is that in this case, the bachelor went trash diving for garbage he already tossed out.  I don’t let me kids do that, why would it be right when it comes to people.

It makes me mad that Molly would take him back after being dumped.  If he did it once, he might just do it again and the message she just sent is that that behavior is acceptable.

People deserve to be treated well. Relationships are a mutual selection process, not a “I pick you” scenario.  Once they are in real life and things even out a little, of course the relationship is bound to fail.  This show binds the mouths of the contestants and then once the “real” relationship begins, she finally gets to say what she really thinks and the dude is left saying, “what happened to that nice, MUTE girl that I dated on the show?”

Bravo ABC for making for some dramatic TV, but Mr. Bachelor, you are a dog.